Work dooms-day


Yesterday was a very sad day at work to say the least because many of our colleagues were layed off and no one expected it to happen.

This already happened on 2015, it was sad then but this year’s version was devastating. Before, the company was considerate enough to speak with the immediate department heads first a week before the HR calls on the candidate to give the news — so people get to prepare themselves or go on and start looking for a new job. This year, it came like a thief in the night.

Nobody knew what was going on, why people are being called to the HRs office until rumors rose that people are being sent off home. Every waiting minute was torture for everyone — its like waiting for your death sentence.

It saddens me everytime I think about it because for years — even if I am not that close to some of them, the nods and smiles in the hallways sure felt they/we were family. Most of them also has families to feed and having a job is very crucial.

I feel for them and I pray that they won’t have a hard time looking for a new job, that they get hired soon.

I am so grateful and thankful that I still have a job — a job that I love and a company that I learned to love.

Work dooms-day

My BIG FIX year

Hello 2018! A little late for my year-ender/year-opener because I wanted to test the waters first but anyway THIS IS IT! — the year I’ve been waiting for.

2017 was a really harsh year for me to say the least. Like what I have said on my previous post – the pain caused by people you trust and believed in is such that even if you want to fight back, you can’t anymore because your anger has eaten your whole being and it just paralyzes you. I am now more damaged emotionally than I have ever been before. I guess if there is one thing I have mastered for years, its being able to hide behind a smile and a laugh that seems like there is no more tomorrow. The trick worked wonders for me for many years but one really gets tired – everything has its end.

When I decided to move on with the anger and with my life apart from my relatives, I finally and truly gave it all up to God. I searched for answers for the whole of 2018, wasted my time on my anger, on getting back at them and for knowing the truth. I cried almost every night asking God to just show me who did all these, asking God what I did to those people because I believe I do not deserve such horrible treatment. I remember, towards the middle of all that, someone told me to let go because if you keep chasing the truth, it will never land on your lap. He said that, knowing your relatives, they will definitely┬ábite their own tongues, that truth will come out — But I didn’t believe that and I chased until I got too tired.

Even after all these, I guess I am still blessed because besides the constant negatrons in my life, I have someone constant doing just the opposite — feeding me with positivity, hope and happiness. It was and still is a really big help because aside from God, he gives me strength and focus to move forward and rise above all these. And so, towards the end of last year, I promised myself to never look back and just focus on what I need to do for myself — its me time again! I learned in life that I need to be whole as a person again before I can truly give back to those who I really care about and for me to feel true happiness again.

At that time, maybe God felt I was ready and He gave me the answer I was searching for. What “my constant” told me was true! They (relatives) we’re the once who unknowingly gave themselves away. My aunt moved in with my parents and in one of their conversations just a week after they have settled, it slipped right out of her mouth asking “innocently” about a facebook photo she saw of me and someone (details of the story will be in another blog). Its funny because my sister never told anyone about that photo that was sent to her and you will never be able to see photos of that person unless you really researched about them/him because all their accounts are private and we have no common friends at all — the nerve of them really trying their best to research and come up with shitty stories just to ruin people! To think they were active church-goes and to look me in the eyes last Christmas when we met as if they have done nothing wrong!

I have to admit that when I heard about that I felt like I was ready to kill the dragon! It was what I have been waiting for! But my constant told me let it go and just let them be, because it was already victory for me knowing that I was right all along — that it was them and that it came out of their own lips. That my greatest victory is to show them that THEY were wrong!

I still get angry once in awhile but I am more determined than ever to move on from the hell-hole they put me in and just forget about them – literally. It sounds bad, but I believe it is the right thing to do, for me at least, because until I keep trying to include them in my life, I will never heal and they will never let me heal.

So for 2018, its time to rise and shine! Fix my self physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. My fresh start begins with my parents visiting home after 3 years and opening up kept secrets for 9 years because its time to start with a clean slate. It will be tough but I know that that will just be at the beginning and acceptance is on its way. I know that blessings come in different forms and as always, God never fails to take care of me and look after me.

I can do this!


My BIG FIX year

Anger > hate > bye!


Been gone for a few months because life got too tough once again. I’ve never in my life, imagined I would get to a point where I got too consumed with my anger that turned into so much hate until one day, I could no longer feel anything at all.

I guess that is both good and bad – for me at least. Good because then I can say I am slowly moving on (I’d like to think, I am healing at some point), and bad because sooo much hate turned to forgetting them and not wanting them to be part of my life, like I don’t give a damn about them.

So in line with the passing of all the Halloween/Death month I am posting this. RIP to my once so angered heart (and hoping against hope that it will not be triggered) and my care to those who do not care (about me) – I am so DONE with all of you.

My “dementors” ruined the person that I once was and changed me forever – negatively. So I used to say that I will return the deed and ruin them as well. But time and chance did not go along with my plans this time and being that it got stuck inside my mind, my heart and my whole being (adding in new offenses they throw at me time and again) – crushed me to pieces. 

At that point I have to admit, I felt cornered, alone and lost – a hundred times and more. There were times when I woke up at night because there were tears in my eyes and my heart is pulpitating. No one to share the pain and anger with because its true that nobody REALLY understands what you are going through. 

Even more worse is the reality that the people ruining you are the people you’ve spent almost half of your life with, people who sort-of honed me while growing up and who I listened to and followed when I was young. I have never imagined that I will personally experience the truth that the most painful heartbreak you will ever get will come from those who are closest to your heart – I never imagined that they, (of all people) would do these to me, never! (Considering all the Christian values they still speak of).

But I am still blessed, because my faith is strong and it kept me going. Although I do not literally hear an answer when I talk to God, I felt it, in more ways than I could ever count – He never left me.

He also gave me someone who I shared some similar sentiments with and knocked a bit of sense to my emotionally lost self.

Sooo now, I’d like say goodbye because you all are so tiring and I have a whole life to live and fix ahead of me. You’ve ruined much of it and me already and I am not going to make you win anymore! 


Anger > hate > bye!

Ugh, stressed

Feeling a bit stressed this week not just because of work (a good thing though, since it has been a while) but of the car-thing coming up so fast.. Times like this, reminds me to ask why time flies so fast. 

Anyway, this week also, I finally decided to jump in and join the band wagon of people trying out something to make themselves lose weight. Exactly my third day on my road to fitness journey (the BeFab way) and I feel like nothing has changed yet, but I am slowly being able to control my food cravings (so yay!). I hope this pays off because I want to be how I used to be 9 years ago (I think).

Also just finished watching the whole 7 seasons of Pretty Little Liars and am missing them like heaps but I am not a big fan of how it ended (that would be on another blog).

I feel blessed though that I think, I finally found a small company who could give me continuous freelance projects for extra income. Projects have been slowly coming in and I hope the company booms so that Ill get showered with more projects from them (keeping my fingers crossed).

Thats it for now, Ill update soon.

Ugh, stressed

Le dream

Good morning!

Its that dream again – the dream that feels so real like it really happened but when you wake up you are just left with the feeling of its touch on your skin.

I haven’t had this dream for years and I am wondering why it happened again. Actually, I am wondering what it really means.

This time its buddy. With him just holding my hand when we went to a museum-like place and while looking at all the exhibits he suddenly holds my hand, not letting it go even if we had to keep other people from seeing it. There was also a look in his eyes that’s like telling me its “ok” and it somehow comforts me. When I woke up, I can still feel his skin on my hand.

That dream was just so weird and comforting at the same time because I haven’t really had a decent conversation with buddy, especially now that he has a girlfriend. I haven’t even though about him for a long time.

I hope I know what it means. Is it just my subconscious mind taking over – am I secretly longing for him to come back in my life? Or is it him thinking about me and somehow I felt it? Is he thinking and or dreaming about me too?

Le dream


Oh hello.

Its July and nothing significant has happened yet except that the car-thing and the money-thing has subsided and put to halt for another month. Which reminds me, I really NEED an extra gig right now. It makes me furious everytime I remember how Upwork kicked me out of their system. They really have their way of ruining others lives and it sucks because its unfair!

On the other hand, I found a way to somehow take my mind off of my stressors (somehow) by watching Pretty Little Liars. It’s so good and I know Im sooo late to appreciate (like 4 Seasons late) BUT it is so good. Brings back a whole lot of young-feels memories when life seemed so highschool-life-complicated.

I miss how my life was like before. Oh well.

Anybody in here knows the best replacement for Upwork. Please!